Here’s What I Know for Damn Sure: Values Are the Muscles That Get You Through the Hard Sh*t
Fyonna Vanderwerf | AUG 6, 2025
Here’s What I Know for Damn Sure: Values Are the Muscles That Get You Through the Hard Sh*t
Fyonna Vanderwerf | AUG 6, 2025
Let’s not sugarcoat this:
Life is going to sucker punch you. Probably more than once.
The diagnosis. The death. The divorce. The day you just can’t do it anymore.
The worst sentence ever- this week " we cannot cure this, only manage it."
You’ll cry in the car. You’ll scream in the shower. You’ll wonder if you’re broken — or if this is the thing that finally breaks you. The blame game will be strong. The " unfair" angle. Everything.
But here’s the wild truth:
You’re still here.
Which means the story isn’t over. Not even close.
And instead of letting life take more from you than it already has, it’s time to start taking things back.
Take your time.
Take your energy.
Take your power.
Take your body back.
Take back your ability to laugh and lift and live, even if it’s with a limp and a little dark humor.
At Bees Knees Wellness, we see it every day:
People showing up in pieces and leaving with a little more breath, more fight, and more belief than they walked in with.
Because listen — this isn’t about “getting back to normal.”
Normal was a myth anyway.
This is about building something bolder. Realer. Stronger. Something that belongs to you.
Let’s break it down. When everything feels like it’s falling apart, these are the Top 10 values that hold your ass — and your heart — together:
Not "bouncing back" like some perky cheerleader. This is rising from the dirt, brushing off the crap, and standing up different. Better. Bolder.
For others, yes. But especially for yourself. If you can’t offer grace to the person in the mirror, start there.
You don’t need to leap off a cliff. Courage is showing up. Wobbling in. Crying in the warm-up. Lifting light and leaving proud.
You keep your word. You show up when it matters. You live like someone you’d want on your own team.
Find your people. Cling to them. Share the dark bits. Then dance with them when the light comes back.
It’s not delusion. It’s the quiet voice saying “try again” when your heart’s still cracked and your legs still shake.
Yes, even now. Even when it’s all going sideways. Gratitude is your anchor. Find three things. Start there.
Ask: What now? What’s next? Not “why me,” but “what can I take from this to fuel my rise?”
Breathe. Feel your feet. Get in your body. You don’t have to figure it all out — just be here now.
Get up. Wiggle. Walk. Lift. Dance in your damn kitchen. It doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be yours.
Here’s the real kicker:
Most people give life their power on a silver platter.
“Oh well, that’s just how it is now.”
“My body will never be the same.”
“I guess I have to accept this new version of me.”
Hell. No.
You get to rage. To rest. To rebuild.
And you get to do it with people who won’t pity you — but will f*cking cheer for you.
That’s what we do at Bees Knees Wellness.
We laugh.
We cry.
We swear sometimes. This is very true,
And we move — for real. For life. For everything the world tried to take.
No more playing small. No more shrinking to fit other people’s comfort zones.
💥 Book the damn class.
💥 Message us for the private.
💥 Come sweat and scream and laugh with us.
💥 Bring the pain and the pride — we’ve got space for both.
Life’s going to take its swing. That’s not the question.
The question is: What are you going to take back?
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🐝 Join. Move what matters. Take no sh*t.
Fyonna Vanderwerf | AUG 6, 2025
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