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Change the Damn Story: Why Your Old Narrative is Holding You Back

Fyonna Vanderwerf | AUG 8, 2025

We all have a story we tell ourselves.
It’s the script running in the background when you hit snooze instead of lacing up your shoes.
It’s the whispered “I’m not the type of person who…” when you’re faced with an opportunity to step up.
It’s the quiet sabotage that says this is just how it is.

Spoiler alert:
That story?
It’s outdated. Dusty. Doesn’t even match who you are now.

And yet, we cling to it like a security blanket—because comfort zones are cozy, even when they’re slowly suffocating us.

The Truth You Don’t Want to Hear (But Need To)

Your old narrative is keeping you stuck.
It’s why you can list every excuse on command.
It’s why you keep starting over every Monday.
It’s why you’ve convinced yourself that transformation is for other people.

But here’s the thing:
A story is just words.
Change the words, you change the plot.
Change the plot, you change the outcome.


Men, Women, Everyone—This is for You

This isn’t a “men’s mindset” thing.
This isn’t a “women’s empowerment” thing.
This is a human thing.
We all need a new damn narrative.

One where:

  • You actually do the thing you say you’ll do.

  • You make decisions that move you forward instead of sideways.

  • You stop identifying with your past and start building your future.

Here’s Your Reality Check

Life isn’t going to pause until you’re “ready.”
The perfect conditions? They’re a fairytale.
You’ll never feel 100% certain.
Do it anyway.

Sidebar: Rewrite Your Story Exercise

Step 1 – Call Out Your Current Script
Write the ONE sentence you’ve been telling yourself on repeat that’s been holding you back.
Example: “I’m just not a gym person.” or “I can’t stick to healthy eating for more than a week.”

Step 2 – Burn It
Cross it out.
Big, bold, angry marker. Gone.

Step 3 – Flip the Script
Rewrite it in present tense, as if you’re already living it.
Example: “I move my body every week and I love how strong I’m becoming.”

Step 4 – Anchor It
Say it out loud. Every. Single. Day.
Bonus points: stick it to your fridge, mirror, or phone background.

And if you want help rewriting the whole damn book…

Bees Knees Coaching is open—but not for long.
These spots are for people ready to burn the old narrative and build one that actually matches the life they want.
You bring your story.
We bring the match.

🔥 Spots are limited.
📅 The time is now.
💛 Let’s rewrite it together.

Fyonna Vanderwerf | AUG 8, 2025

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